Play From Your Fucking Heart

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You know my passion for analysis and self development. Psycho therapy, classical ones, body therapy, Bachs Flowers, dansemindfull meditation, readings about intimacyjoy…. I try not to miss any occasion to understand more and better about myself, about who I am.

Still, I must admit Play From Your Fucking Heart had totally overwhelmed me (my head? my all self?). It was the reading I was not ready for before, it was exactly what I needed a couple of months ago, when i read it.

I will introduce you soon to Jerry Hyde, because the affair does not stop hère, but before that, I would like to tell you about his book because it enabled me to understand so much about myself.

 

1/ Easy Baby

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In his book, Jerry (yeah why not calling him by his given name now?!) shares 20 years of practice as a therapist, 10 years of training (in classical therapy, but also through numerous retreats with spiritual masters, chamans…). This is serious, this is supa serious! Still, whatever he will be dealing with (emotions, relationships, sexuality…) Jerry will write as if he was a close friend of yours, chatting easily at a party or around a cup of tea. He is English, so it is very witty, both profound and full of humour. And most of all, Jerry shares his own personal experiences, his errors, discoveries, which enables an analysis that is not “descending”. Just true sharing. and I find this so beautiful.

 

2/ Observe yourself lovingly

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At the end of each chapter, Jerry will give you 1, 2, 5 reminders to consider. And in any case (when you feel pain, when you should feel pain, when you’ve been an arshole, when-ever), “Observe Yourself Lovingly” will be featured and i this so poetic i can’t tell you how much. i just love it.

This state of mind, is a place from where you can grow. Whatever the situation is, including the worst ones, including those you are responsible for. You learn how to switch from guilt (ok so what?!)(useless) to what he calls  AFGO “Another Fucking Growth Opportunity“.

In other words, the compassion you have for yourself, is not only a way to be kind to yourself, it can be a truly difficult path, but that is what makes you grow strong, in any occasion.  Fucking powerfull!

 

3/ Explore your Dark Side

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We have already quoted Yung “Do you want to be good or to be whole”. And I’ve got it from this very book. To explain you briefly : obsessive control, anger, vanity, cowardliness, addiction, we all have (a) dark side(s)(sssss).

Come on, don’t tell me know you have none! (compulsive lying is a dark side).

Despite that, we have all grown up with the duty to do good, behave well. The result is that this dark side becomes totally shut down, unknown and hence… so free to express itself, without possible control. The so famous “despite me”, “beyond my control”, “I don’t understand, I don’t recognize myself, it is no me “.

Regardent myself, it was anger (i found more of them since). But could cure myself if I did knowledge there was an issue, my own issue. We usually objectivise the reasons of our anger “s/he did that to me > s/he deserves my anger/ it is normal that I get angry”. sometimes it is true. But it becomes a pattern, a relational mode (with ones’ kids, parents, lover) then the problem is… you!

So if you “observe yourself lovingly”, maybe you will able to see where, when, how it happens. Without being judgemental but by dressing the true issue : yourself. People around me could have to cope with my anger, whilst the problem came from me. Little by little, i eventually accepted what was actually the truth for such a long time : i was angry (shit!). So, well, I became the subject of my own anger.

And Suddenly, i felt “complete”, “whole”, and FUCK YEAH it felt so… good! I felt libarated! And now I know it belongs to me, that i have stupide it so so precisely, i can defuse it when i see its motors starting. People around me are so happy. And so am I!

 

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This expérience of the Dark Side, has been one of the most profond and sensitive ever. I also understood why we like to cry and shiver while going to cinema : we need to feel complete.

my eternal gratitude to the well-named… Mr Hyde! <3

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